Friends, please read this post by Donna Cameron, who writes A Year of Living Kindly. She reconciles honesty with kindness in those moments of apparent conflict, and shows us how to navigate it with simple tools that apply in any relationship, anywhere, anytime. Thank you, Donna!
“Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true.” (Robert Brault)
“Don’t be so thin-skinned. I’m just telling it like it is.”
“Hey, I call it like I see it.”
“Jeesh, you’re so touchy!”
These phrases are often used to justify saying hurtful things. Sometimes the speaker may really believe that the listener needs to hear his unvarnished opinion about the poor sap’s looks, abilities, opinions, or prospects.
Speaking on behalf of poor saps everywhere, we don’t. We don’t need someone to tell us all the things that are wrong with us or all the things we don’t do as well as we should. That’s what that persistent little voice in our own head does—and it doesn’t need any help.
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