Who Am I and Why Am I Here?

I’m a student again!  Blogging 101 is the first class I have taken in maybe decades.  This is my first assignment–Introduce Yourself to the World.

I’m a writer! Since I can remember, I’ve written. I learned about mail in second grade and cheerily wrote letters to our student teacher, Miss Bruce, all summer. I think postage was about $0.05 back then. I passed notes to friends in middle school. I looked forward to writing essays in high school, and always felt a rush as I typed them late at night. I submitted a paper on the contribution of Chinese workers to the Transcontinental Railroad to The Concord Review after graduation—ya gotta love writing to spend summer vacation doing that! Intermediate Composition, which I took in my junior year at Northwestern, taught by Charles Yarnoff, was a turning point for me. I learned that quarter the true great potential of words, and that I could wield them. That was 21 years ago, and this past winter, when I received the brochure for a writing conference for healthcare professionals at Harvard, my soul leapt for joy and I knew I stood at the threshold of something big. Thursday morning, before for the conference started, I had no intention of blogging. By Saturday afternoon I was scrambling to secure a domain name from my phone on the cab ride to the airport. It is time.

I’m a physician, wife, mom, daughter of immigrants, almost native Coloradoan, and lover of nature and Brad Paisley! Turns out, as I reflect, I’m also a connector. Growing up I merged Chinese and American culture into my own expression of self, which has served me well. At work I became interested in integrative medicine, and today I stand confidently with one foot each in the conventional and complementary medicine hemispheres. I can sit in a room with people from different backgrounds and with divergent interests, and find common goals.

I’m here on WordPress to connect patients and physicians again! Technology, pharmaceuticals, and large medical organizations all contribute greatly to the fight against disease and disability, but they often get in the way of the patient-physician relationship. And it is only our relationships that truly heal. I have a specific point of view on this (see my first post), and blogging allows me to express it freely, in hopes of connecting with others to share and discuss.

When I go home to Colorado, I like to visit Red Rocks, the renowned natural amphitheater. The great iron-laden land formations inspire and soothe me. Once I happened upon a Native American drumming circle on stage. It was the middle of a typically sunny Colorado day, with tourists milling about, and local athletes taking advantage of the seating steps for interval training. The timbre of the drumbeats impressed me, and vibrated to my core. This is how I see my blogging. I beat my drum to my own authentic rhythm. The blogosphere is my amphitheater, which I share with other drummers from around the world. When those striking resonant sound waves find me, we drum in coherence. Our collective rhythms synergize and create a movement of communication and mutual respect, toward the health and well-being of patients and physicians alike. Wouldn’t that be great?

If I keep it up, by one year from now, I hope my style and content will have matured a little.  I look forward to making more friends in the blogosphere, and learning about people’s experiences in our healthcare system.  I want to contribute to productive dialogue and mindfulness of the common humanity that, in my opinion, should lie at the heart of all healthcare.

Physicians and Journalism: Responsibly Meeting the Challenge

An excellent discussion of the importance of physicians’ mindfulness. Our words and actions matter, often more than we know, in and out of the exam room. It is the contract of responsibility that we signed when we took the oath of caring.

drkevincampbellmd's avatarDr. Kevin Campbell, MD

As a physician journalist I find myself in a very fortunate and quite unique position—I am able to reach vast numbers of Americans on a daily basis and provide them with credible (and hopefully impactful) news on health and wellness. Medical journalism is similar to the practice of medicine in that we must put the PATIENT first. Just as physicians provide patients with information they need to better understand their disease state and treatment options in a clinical interaction, physician journalists must carefully choose their words when on camera or quoted in print. In a clinical situation, there is time for questions and two-way interaction between doctor and patient. In contrast, medical reporting in broadcast media is a very different situation–there is no opportunity for patient interaction and what is said MUST be something that will stimulate further conversation between viewers and their OWN private physicians. Statements must be clear…

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Help Me, Help You

When I am at my best, it’s a win-win.  I am present, attentive, and actively listening.  I am patient, cheerful, relaxed.  I am less judgmental, and more likely to acknowledge the things you already do to help yourself.  Not only do I hear what you say; I see and hear how you feel, and you know it.

When I am at my best, we feel connected.  You feel safe to reveal things to me that you might not if I were less than my best.  Then I get to know you—what you value, what you fear, and what you need from me.  I know better what questions to ask, and you can answer honestly.  My diagnosis is more accurate, my treatment plan more relevant.  You feel more comfortable asking questions.  We both leave the visit satisfied and fulfilled.

So what do I need to be at my best?  I need to take care of myself first: eat healthy, exercise, get enough sleep, manage my stress, and nurture my relationships.  If we consider each of these a bucket, then the ideal is to keep each bucket mostly full all the time.  How is that possible?  That is up to me.  I need to practice what I preach—a tall order!  It can lead to perfectionism, self-judgment, disappointment, and burnout.  It’s my responsibility to manage myself.

How could you help me be my best?  After all, you have a stake (and a hand) in how I show up.  Have you thought about this already?

What assumptions do you make about me?

How do those assumptions affect your body language, what information you give me, and how you perceive my words and recommendations?

What assumptions can you make about me that would maximize your chances of getting what you need?

I respectfully request that you consider the following about me, your physician:

  • I try my best to walk the talk. I know how hard it is.
  • Every day I bring all that I have to work, to do my best for you.
  • Some days (weeks, months, years) I have more than others, depending on what else is going on in my life.
  • I will make mistakes, and it’s not because I don’t care.
  • I know it’s my job to help you.
  • I need your help to do it.

When you feel that disconnect, like I have left Best Me somewhere else and you’re not getting what you need, what will you do?  Will you yell and storm away? Smile to my face and then write a scathing, anonymous Yelp review? What would you do if I were your spouse, colleague, friend, or child? You and I are in a relationship, not unlike these. Could you patiently, lovingly, ask me to slow down, take a deep breath, and be with you now? I think I would respond very well to that.