What to write on vacation? Depends on the schedule, no? Happily, on my Rocky Mountain escape this week, time lolls wide open. How rare and precious to have these days with no commitments, no agenda, and a true feeling of detachment! Wow. How refreshing, nourishing, relaxing, and challenging. No patients to see, meetings to attend, immediate work crises to solve. I feel at once liberated and anxious—as if I enjoy the bright Colorado sun now, but there must be some black cloud looming over the ridge to the west. *sigh*
The LOH retreat positively saturated me last weekend—mind, body, and soul. I had Hippie Zealot Conference High, for sure. And as so often happens, synthesizing learnings and insights proved challenging off the mountain and in real life, especially with only four intense days of re-entry before leaving again for spring break. But now I have time and space—physical and mental—to process, hallelujah!
It never ceases to amaze me, the cosmic collision of ideas and insights that simultaneously shape my personal and professional development. It’s like I feel the universe’s Michelangelo, Van Gogh, and Einstein hands sculpting and unifying my consciousness at all levels—it’s awesome!!
Weeks prior to LOH, my own coach Christine and my coach friend Donna each independently introduced me to the work of Jennifer Garvey Berger, expert in adult development and leadership coaching. She incorporates ideas of complexity and systems, central tenets of LOH training, in her philosophy. I started listening to her book, Changing on the Job, the week before LOH started. My friends came to Berger’s work separately (they don’t know each other, which I intend to remedy soon), and the temporal overlap of their new learning with my own makes my heart leap—my friendships are, without question, divinely inspired. The central learning for me so far is recognition of my current and aspirational states of development as a person in all aspects of life. I look forward to acquiring and practicing more skills for growth—it is a lifelong process!
Two weeks ago, while searching links for my Thank You post to Ben Zander, I came across Rosamund Stone Zander’s book, Pathways to Possibility, the follow up to their co-authored book, The Art of Possibility, still my favorite book of all time. I started PtP days before LOH; the synergism of ideas almost overwhelmed me. I finished it last week and holy cow, this is advanced practice personal development. The stories we tell, the ones that rule our relationships and lives, can be so deeply entrenched that even when we recognize their dysfunction, revising them feels almost impossible. In my personal life, I recognize intellectually that I hold onto some seriously destructive stories—ones that cause chronic and palpable suffering not just for me but those closest to me. I lose circulation in my figurative hands, my emotional grip on these stories is so tight, and I still refuse to let go of them. It is positively frustrating and fascinating. I know this stubborn intransigence has untoward effects on my leadership capacity and style at work, however indirectly, because I firmly believe that ‘how we do anything is how we do everything.’ It just kills me—like a padlocked steel door in the long hallway of self-awareness, behind which live insight and psychological freedom—I know I have the key somewhere, I just can’t find it yet. I will return repeatedly to integrate the practices in this book, like I do to AoP. And, I get better every year at holding myself with a little more compassion. We’re all here doing our best; I am no exception. Nobody is better supported in this work of self-discovery than I. So I journey on mostly joyfully, surrounded by fellow wayfinders, working on ourselves for the benefit of us all. Onward!
I started this post with at least two other ideas to write about, but I’ll hold off. I have four more days here in the mountains. More time and space to think on, manipulate, and start to apprehend all of these ideas and learnings of late. My thank you cards, washi tape, journal, and laptop are spread out over the coffee table. My favorite movies play on DVD and cable as pleasant and entertaining background ambiance. What a gift and a blessing are time and space. May I savor these days with deep and sustaining gratitude.