
Two weeks of summer vacation done and gone, holy cow! And the hot, muggy Chicago summer has begun in earnest.
Gone are the manic-depressive weeks of sixties one day, eighties the next, keeping jeans and shorts, tank tops and sweaters, all on hand because I never know what I’ll walk out to in the morning. The summer schedule is always looser: later starts at camp, no homework, and ooohh, the longer days! The extra sunlight saves me every year. Just as I think I’m going to lose my mind from the dreary gray of this lakeside climate, I’m suddenly able to start a 90 minute bike ride at 6:30pm and still get home before dark.
Every year it feels the same–summer sneaks up on me in late June, arriving suddenly and with great force, like opening the front door to a smothering blast of hot, humid air. But sometimes I’m able to pay a little more attention, and I may notice the trees budding and the crocus shoots pushing through still-cold soil, as early as April. The Transition is actually quite long. Maybe it’s Mother Nature’s way of teaching me patience. Every year I lament (loudly) the halting, stuttering, ever agonal and prolonged Chicago ‘spring.’ I swear, it feels like winter refuses to let go its death grip of cold and clouds; it must be pried away like the fingers of a long dead frost bite victim, hands wrapped around the city like a vice, contractured muscles rendered immobile at a cellular level.
But now it’s officially summer and I’m going to make the most of it. My youngest is getting confident on her bike. Soon we can all get out on the lake path to access Chicago’s beaches, no fighting for parking. We will also be road-tripping more this year–why else should I have the giant SUV with such a sweet sound system?? I will weed that garden, plant more herbs, and use them all up in my recipes this year. We will visit the Art Institute, go to free concerts downtown, and spend as much time outside as possible! Hallelujah, it’s SUMMER!!!
Now is the season to reframe my use of time, to do it better. Perhaps this Transition has also been more gradual than I realize… The urge for more efficiency and productivity has lurked around my consciousness for a while now. So many things to do, so precious little time–take care of patients, participate in professional societies, present talks on physician wellness, spend quality time with the family and friends, move my body, eat healthier, and write this blog!! This year’s spring to summer Transition feels in some ways, so typical, and in others, a little revolutionary.
I have ten more weeks to make it all count, and then the next Transition begins–summer to fall. That may be my favorite part of the year–harvesting apples and squash, putting the cozy sweaters back on, and witnessing the visual symphony of leaves turning. Somehow I’m always able to slow down and savor this period a lot more easily; it feels more peaceful, less frenetic.
How fascinating! I’m in such a hurry to escape winter’s cold, dark grasp, that I miss (or ignore, fail to appreciate?) the small but reliable signs of a Chicago spring. But then, after a couple months of sweltering heat and humidity, I welcome the crisp autumn air–I relax. And though I know the long, dark winter approaches, I can revel in the colors, the school supplies, the new academic year. Our friends who left for the summer return, and I look forward to the holidays, with the food, the gatherings, and the exchanges of greetings, gifts, and warm wishes… And did I mention the FOOD?? 😆
So I set myself the task hereafter, to slow down and Hold the Space for Spring, the most challenging Transition of the year here in Chicago. I can continue to practice patience, calm, and appreciation for all that nature must do to bring forth the glory of summer here. Maybe I should set an alert to reread this post next March…
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#AtoZChallenge: LOVE
Teeheehee, a Little Late…
One year ago yesterday I launched this blog, Happy Blogoversary to me! 😀
It started as a platform to explore ways to reconnect patients and physicians in the increasingly divisive healthcare system. And while that idea still stands central to the theme of the blog, I soon realized a much larger and more important principle: The best practices apply across all relationships, not just doctor-patient relations. The more I write, read, and explore, the bolder I have grown in my writing.
The very best outcome (so far) of starting this blog has been the LOVE I have received from others around it. From the beginning, fellow bloggers have engaged, welcomed, encouraged, challenged, and nurtured me. My friends and family have also held me up—following me via email, commenting on Facebook and the blog itself. A vast community of support has stood up around me as I took this risk to share my mind publicly. If they looked down on blogging, they kept it to themselves and encouraged me anyway. If they thought I wouldn’t stick with it, I imagine they secretly wished me persistence, and then grace if I failed. Because of all of these people, I have confidence to continue striving to bring forth the best in me, to share with everybody, in the hopes of creating something meaningful.
What if everybody had this chance? What if every time someone wanted to do something bold and new, we met them with this much LOVE, cheer, praise, and affirmation? Doing so does not mean blindly endorsing frivolous endeavors and wasted energy. We can always offer LOVE along with tactful words of truth and pragmatism. Even when, or especially when, projects fail terrifically, everybody can learn and grow. LOVE from others at the outset makes us more resilient to failure. LOVE from others at the moment of failure, as opposed to ridicule, shame, and sarcasm, makes us humble, grateful, and more brave, as opposed to defensive, angry, and humiliated.
Adequate words do not exist to express my deepest and most sincere gratitude to all who have LOVED me throughout my life, including those who have LOVED me through my blogging adventure so far. May I pay it forward, and find ways to LOVE others whenever I have the chance. If I can do that, then I will truly contribute to making the world a better place.
#AtoZChallenge: The Grace of Great Grooves
The original title of this post was “Groove More, Gripe Less.” I’m reminded of my daughter telling me, “Mama, I like how your mood gets better when you listen to music.” [I mentioned this in a previous post.] I remember her words often, because she uttered them with such innocence, but they ring unequivocally true. Music can complement, elevate, validate, amplify, evoke, or pacify my feelings; sometimes it does all of these things at once.
It started with Johnny Cash, Loretta Lynn, Conway Twitty, and Olivia Newton-John. Their songs may have been the first I heard of English—my parents left Taiwan and landed in Mississippi in 1971. Come to think of it, country music lyrics are much easier to understand than other genres of songs in English… Anyway, from there my tastes migrated to include Sonny& Cher, John Denver, Michael Jackson, Def Leppard, Yanni, Sting, George Winston, Brad Paisley, Dixie Chicks, Barenaked Ladies, and now Bruno Mars and Rachel Platten.
We humans are so fortunate to have evolved the great frontal lobe, where reason and intellect reside. But even better, this protuberance behind the forehead retains intricate connections to the more primal, hindbrain parts, where emotion and memory live. So through music and art, we can integrate our experiences in as many unique ways as there are individuals. Thankfully also, music conveys the universal experiences that comprise our shared humanity. Music can move us at depths we normally take for granted, or don’t even know exist. There are happy songs, sad songs, angry songs, romantic songs, irreverent songs, and holy songs. There is space in the human journey for all of them and more.
I have anticipated this post all week, because I wanted to include a selection of my favorite pieces. I looked forward to sifting through them, knowing they would bring back sacred memories. Scrolling through Facebook during my A to Z writing breaks, I came across a post by friend and writer Wendy Toliver. She had what I interpret as a divine music moment and, luckily for us, she shared it:
“…Today, I am grateful for music. It touches our former selves as well as our current selves, and it helps us remember what is truly important, so that our futures can be all they should be. I am so grateful for the musicians who so eloquently weave notes and words together, who pluck our heartstrings, and make us want to better ourselves. I am so honored to have musicians in my family and friends so close they might as well be family. Thank you. I thank God for you.” How cosmic, that we both felt the keenness of music in coincidence. That’s the magic of it, after all.
Feeling all this Glory of Music, I decided writing about Griping would just be a downer. So let us get busy building our lyrical libraries—the bigger, broader, and more genres the better! I present the list below in no particular order. I thought of categorizing them—songs to move your body, songs to cook to, songs to write with—but I bet they speak to you very differently from how they speak to me, so I invite you to hear them in your own context. And please share your own favorites, too—what music moves you?
Get Your Groove On!
Days Like This, Van Morrison
Stand By You, Rachel Platten
Beer For My Horses, Toby Keith and Willie Nelson
Mom and the Radio, Bill Harley
Because We Can, Bon Jovi
The Butterfly Lovers Violin Concerto, Gang Chen and Zhanhao He
Footloose, Kenny Loggins
Goodbye Montana, George Winston
New World Symphony, Antonin Dvorak
I Can See Clearly Now, Johnny Nash
Runaway Baby, Bruno Mars
Who I Was Born To Be, Susan Boyle
Ode To Joy, Ludwid von Beethoeven
Rocky Mountain High, John Denver
Roar, Katy Perry
Ticks, Brad Paisley
No Place Like You, Maddie & Tae
Hallelujah Chorus, George Frideric Handel
Ming Tien Hue Gen Hao (Tomorrow will be even better)—The Chinese version of Band Aid and USA for Africa… and what the heck, let’s include those original recordings:
PS I have shared the best recordings I could find of the songs—they’re all on YouTube. Please excuse any link glitches!