Milestones, transitions, philosophical thoughts Insights, revelations, letting go of “I ought”s Could’ve sat for a couple hours Writing them to share Instead I did what moved me No fuss or fanfare
Both kids home, one flew back from overseas All on the same page, just hangin’ with ease What to do for dinner? Should we go shop? Ooo, cook together with a movie on Then a round of mahjong The best birthday evening before both kids are gone
I have *adult* children, O. M. Gee. I’ve come a long way, non-fuckup mom me. Like my own MaBa, I will always be here Cheering and loving them both every day For their hopes, dreams, and successes galore For life to bring oodles of love and connection their way
So much yet to do in this lifetime, teeheeeee How many more branches might grow on my tree? “No longer stupid, not yet infirm” Is still the mantra I quote with great joy Who knows what chances to learn and explore Might emerge and allow me new skills to employ?
This poem already causes us all too much pain But kinda fun to try my hand at it again I’ll stick to prose, not to worry, my friends Just wanted to write something down on this day To see what emerged here as summer ends What have I, approaching mid-50s, to say?
It’s kind of a lot, and it can all wait Because at this age when it gets late Sometimes ya just gotta get ready for bed The deep thoughts will save for another day Oh and I have dough yet to be shaped So just wanted to check in and say
Wishing you all so much peace, joy, and love That any adversity may be borne with fortitude and grit That you never feel alone or defeated (for long) That your self-efficacy and confidence take turns at the wheel With humility and connection riding shotgun And who cares if the last stanza of your poem rhymes FFS Life is too short to make everything perfect
Onward, my people. Celebrate ourselves and one another!
Greetings from Ireland, friends! Delayed post due to travel!
Daughter is here for a five week archaeology/osteology course, on a dig in an old castle–how amazing is that? I took it as an excuse to ‘drop her off’ and spend a few days by myself, walking around looking for bookstores and coffee shops in Dublin. It is positively glorious.
In the past week I have finished about four audiobooks and started a new book in print. After walking over 12K steps the last two days, I think tomorrow I may feel okay about planting myself in the shops I found to just read and write the hours away. Afternoon tea and a hotel gym workout are my only plans. More gloriousness!
Since I have loved so many books this year already, I decided to post a mid-year list, so I can write a little something about some of my favorite ones, if they don’t already have a dedicated post. I feel my book consumption pattern changing a little again, leaning toward more complex stories in fiction/romance, and returning to my psychology interests again in non-fiction. AJ, Donna, and I will discuss The Dealby Elle Kennedy, then Being Mortal by Atul Gawande, and then Outlander by Diana Gabaldon in our next few gatherings.
The first 16 books on this year’s list are left over from prior years. It took me two years to finish listening to 1.The Fourth Turning, and I still want to read it, as the density made it hard to absorb everything audibly. But what a fascinating and prescient concept: the intersections of the four cyclic turnings of Western history (crisis, high, awakening, unraveling) and the four phases of a human lifespan (childhood, early adulthood, middle age, elderhood), how they influence our leadership and culture, and perpetuate the cycles!
I finally abandoned 2. Outlive after three years; got about 70% through, listening at 2x speed, before stopping. I found 71. Spring Chickenbecause I like Jeremy Arthur’s voice and narration style and I recommend both it and 36. The Cure for Everything! (also read by Arthur) before Outlive. Chicken was published in 2015, maybe at the beginning of our current obsession with longevity (subtitle “Stay Young Forever (Or Die Trying)”, and cites many of the same studies as Outlive, though much more concisely and with better storytelling. Cure was initially published in 2011, with updates in 2020 and 2023. Outlive came out in 2023. All three books essentially address the same question: What can we do to stay healthy for life? Timothy Caulfield, an academic and the author of Cure, queried his fellow academics in fitness, nutrition, genetics, and medicine, then followed and wrote about the effects of their evidence-based advice for healthy habits. Bill Gifford, writer and author of Chicken, likewise interviewed researchers in aging and medicine, and also applied credible recemmendations to his own life. In the end both authors conclude that living well and long is not rocket science: Don’t eat too much. Move a lot most days and lift heavy things often. Stay connected to people you care about and who care about you. Enjoy your life. Supplements, complex diagnostic tests, and the latest trends in biometric tracking move the needle very little if you’re already following these basic principles.
My two top priority non-fiction listens this summer areThe Way of Excellence by Brad Stulberg (I still recommendMaster of Change to patients every week) and Inside the Box by David Epstein (I also still recommend Rangereguarly). What I love about these authors is their thoughtfulness, humility, and how they advocate for a mindset rather than a method. And all they’re selling is books, not overpriced products or exclusive, overindulgent services.
On the fiction side, I have already written about my very favorite novels of the year to date: The Crowns Trilogy by Nicola Tyche (29. North Queen, 26. Shadow Queen, and 27. War Queen–the last of which is essentially my comfort audio anymore) here, here, and here. I eagerly await the next two books in this saga, Blood King Parts I and II, which Zach Lazar Hoffman is currently recording. He reads live on TikTok sometimes; how fun to watch my favorite voice actors work! This series continues to make me both feel and think, every time I listen. Like 60. Never After and 74. Something Extraordinary by Alexis Hall, which I have also reviewed here this year, these stories remind me to always put our shared humanity in front when faced with disagreement or conflict. We are all here doing our best trying to get our most fundamental needs met, some more effectively than others. 30. Love Your Enemies by Arthur Brooks also centers on this point–another book I share often and posted about here.
Here at the end of Pride Month, I highly recommend 75. Daughter of Tides by Kit Rocha. Another MMF romantasy I found through Shane East, the premise makes me think and imagine: How would Love incarnate manifest? Shane plays Aleksi, god of Love in human form, who falls in love himself with the sea god and water nymph he intends to matchmake, all while they three defend against unknown assassins in a world of post-war intrigue.
Theo of Golden by Allen Levi, narrated by the great David Morse, started out slow but interesting enough to keep me listening the whole thirteen hours. The premise of sitting down with strangers to get to know them, as the main character does with a widely disperate set of folks in a small Georgia town, intrigued and hooked me. The intertwined relationships and transformations that ensue, and the plot twist at the end, made the long, languid listen well worth the time spent, and I imagine this story will occur to and influence me often hereafter.
Finally, I hope to write here soon about Tea & Alchemy by Sharon Lynn Fisher. Another Shane East performance with Marisa Calin (they also narrate Kerri Maniscalco’s Prince of Sin series–“Think Bridgerton in Hell”–also among my favorites, see 31. Throne of Nighmares), this slow burn, low spice, heartwarming love story between a reclusive, benevolent ‘alchemist’ and a budding tea leaf reader points to all the ways we humans reject and harm one another by default, and how we can choose openness, generosity, kindness, and compassion to overcome those destructive tendencies and make a better world. I have connected with Sharon Lynn Fisher herself, and hope to interview her about the story’s inception and evolution, and what she wishes for the characters and us readers from it.
I don’t formally review all the books I love, much less all that I consume, but I’m happy to discuss any of them with anyone. Which titles interest you from the list below? Which have you read/listened to and what was their impact on you?
Oh, and I definitely recommend the movie Heart of Champions, starring Michael Shannon and Charles Melton. Son and I found it while scrolling our streaming platform and we both immediately jumped at it. Teamwork, leadership, integrity, and resilience: it’s all here, the models and the foils. Tragically evocative, thought provoking, and an excellent conversation starter.
What books and media have got your attention lately? What do you recommend? Happy reading and listening, my friends.
Key: Bold = favorite [Open bracket = stopped but not yet abandoned [Closed bracket = abandoned] –Hypenated = repeat listen; plus –times repeated ALC = Advance Listener Copy
Books & Media of 2026
The Fourth Turning, William Strauss/Neil Howe
[Outlive, Peter Attia]
[The Art of Quiet Influence, Jocelyn Davis
[Born Liars, Ian Leslie
[Connie: A Memoir, Connie Chung
[Want: Sexual Fantasies by Anonymous, Gillian Anderson
[Possible, William Ury]
[Lust for Life, Irving Stone]
[The Biology of Desire, Marc Lewis
[True Love, Robert Fulghum
[Moral Ambition, Rutger Bregman]
[The Well at the World’s End, AJ Mackinnon]
[Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliott, PhD
Romancing the Shadow, Dr. Connie Zweig & Dr. Steve Wolf
Careless People, Sarah Wynn-Williams
[Letters to a Young Poet, Rainer Maria Rilke, translation by MD Herter Norton
Hathor and the Prince, JJ McAvoy
The Daughter of Sherlock Holmes, Leonard Goldberg
Between the Cracks, Helena Hunting
Unwanted Love, L. Steele
The Virgin’s Fake Fiancé, Kim Loraine
A Study in Treason: A Daughter of Sherlock Holmes Mystery, Leonard Goldberg
Better Than a Box of Chocolates, Emily March
The Keeper’s Legacy, Meg Anne
The Disappearance of Alistair Ainsworth: A Daughter of S Holmes Mystery, L Goldberg
–Shadow Queen, Nicola Tyche-4
–War Queen, Nicola Tyche-6
The Order of Time, Carlo Rovelli
–North Queen, Nicola Tyche-2
Love Your Enemies, Arthur C Brooks
Throne of Nightmares, Kerri Maniscalco
Viciously Yours, Jamie Applegate Hunter
Watch Me: Private Listing, CS Berry
–Priest, Sierra Simone
–Midnight With the Devil, Emma Castle
The Cure for Everything!, Timothy Caulfield
Duke of Eccess, Mariah Stone
Tea & Alchemy, Sharon Lynn Fisher
Crescent Kingdom, Tessa Hale
Mountain Fire, Donna Grant
Hidden Potential, Adam Grant
[What the F, Benjamin K Bergen
[The Meaning of Your Life, Arthur Brooks
–Never the Roses, Jennifer K Lambert
American Queen, Sierra Simone
–Sinner and Saint, Sierra Simone—exerpts only
The Coffee Shop, Rosaline Jay
Of Prophecies and Pomegranates, TC Kraven
Of Death and Desires, TC Kraven
–Two Pretty Lies, Kelleigh Claire–1
Cross Me, Geneva Lee
Prince of Seduction, Donna Grant
Holy Hearts, Amanda Richardson
Hollen the Soulless, Sven the Collector, Denali Day
Erik the Tempered, Denali Day
Ivan the Bold, Denali Day
Seaside Serenade, Melissa Foster
–Sanguine, Sierra Simone-4
–The Lady’s Command, Stephanie Laurens
Never After, Alexis Hall-2
The Unwilling Love, L Steele
The Correspondent, Virgina Evans
One Summer Day in Rome, Mark Lamprell
[West of Wicked, Nikky St. Crowe
The Marriage Proposal, Kim Loraine
–Big Deck Energy, Kim Loraine
The Baby Proposition, Kim Loraine
The Sideways Life of Denny Voss, Holly Kennedy
Embracing Hope, Viktor Frankl
[Handmade, Gary Rogowski
Spring Chicken, Bill Gifford
[The Boys in the Boat…, Daniel James Brown
What If I Say Yes?, Harlow Scott, alpha reader copy
Theo of Golden, Allen Levi
Something Extraordinary, Alexis Hall
Daughter of Tides, Kit Rocha
The Good Witch’s Guide to Bad Choices, Sarah Piper, ALC
Sharing tonight my review of Something Extraordinaryby Alexis Hall, because once again I sit both enthralled and hung over, re-listening to (reliving!) my favorite passages while marking up the hastily obtained print copy, playing or quoting lines to Daughter because I just cannot help myself, I love it so much.
Posted to Audible: “Wild, hilarious, heartwarming ride of love in all its forms! “Love is love and it SAVES US. Human connection in any context, often despite our most counter-connecting behaviors, is so much more possible than we think! Not with everybody, but with far more folks than we assume, if we only keep our hearts open and vulnerable enough to risk it. That is what this book reminds me. I cannot count the number of times I went from brow-furrowingly sad empathy to laughing out loud to clipping a passage for further philosophical consideration, all in the space of a few minutes. Have already quoted, described, and recommended this story to anyone who crossed my path this week. Ell Potter and Steve West perform all of the characters with distinction and grace, and their voices for the supporting characters even match, making the listening experience that much more delightful. I forwent sleep and life tasks for this audiobook, for the integrated marvel of this story brought forth by the author and voice actors. God bless ‘em.”
This is the third book of Hall’s Something Fabulous series. I listened to a long preview of Book One, Something Fabulous, which I did not go on to finish, and I only read the overview of Book Two,Something Spectacular. I think they are not meant to be standalone novels, but I did not feel lost in the least picking up the series at the end. The main characters’ personalities and relationship are clearly established in advance, yet develop and deepen meaningfully throughout this story.
As in Never After, Hall explores sexuality and the social norms that constrain it with depth, compassion, and stark honesty about our capacity for both generous, loving acceptance and rigid, shaming rejection of our fellow humans. The characters’ clever banter, as well as their touching dialogues, both inner and exchanged, bring reader/listener to a much deeper level of empathy and tender, gentle human awareness than most romances I come across. The writing is both subtle and blatant in turn, and lyrical as ever (see below for some choice exerpts).
Human relationships are messy and complex in any context. Holding, honoring, and then navigating the consequences of natural yet unconventional preferences and desires in the face of punishing social pressures is something many of us may not live first hand. Hall’s books generously, humorously, and lovingly provide us with a window into that experience, inviting us all to open our minds and hearts to our shared humanity no matter who we are and how we identify. The story reads deliciously long and languid, topsy turvy, hilarious and tearful, and leaves us wishing all our fellow humans to find love that provides safety, uplift, and peace. Witty, sparkling dialogue and an utterly whimsical plot hooked and enchanted me throughout. But the deeply humane, gentle yet assertive explorations of love, faith, world view, and reconciliation will keep me reflecting and seeking conversation with friends for weeks to come.
Please find my favorite quotes below, and beware the possiblitity of spoilers. I will enjoy these sections for a while yet, and dive deeper yet into Alexis Hall’s other worlds. I bet you’ll see more of their work shared here shortly. Wishing all a lovely week ahead!
Audible review: 5 stars overall and for performance and story
“…He had wanted from her what he always wanted… what he had spent so many years hopelessly seeking in the bodies of strangers. “Once upon a time, he would have called it love and asked no questions. But the word seemed bigger and smaller than he remembered–differently shaped and less perfectly fitting. No wonder, then, he thought ruefully, that he had been unable to find what he was looking for, if he hadn’t understood what it was. Perhaps that was why he’d always clung to those who did not want him–willing to do almost anything to ensure they didn’t become someone else who wouldn’t stay–when he should have paid more attention to those he’d let go.”
“There was something strange happening to Rufus’s heart. He normally conceived it as hard and gnarled, like a peach pit. Now it was as soft as the peach itself. ‘I… I’m flattered, Bellflower. I do not think anyone has ever felt jealous over me in my entire life.'”
[Belle] “…’If it is not acceptable for ladies to be coerced into sexual encounters, then it should not be acceptable for gentelmen, either.’ [Sir Horley/Rufus] “‘I don’t mind.’ “‘Don’t overwhelm me with your ardour or anything,’ muttered the highwaryman. “Rufus glanced at him. ‘I’m sorry. Take me now, you scurrilous devil. Is that better?’ “‘A bit. But could you put more feeling into it?’
“… Strange how quickly you could grow accustomed to things. Even relatively inconsequential ones like sharing space. One would have thought, after long days in a carriage with Belle, he would want distance, not increased closeness. But she had awoken some brutal, terrifying hunger in him, and now he missed the certainty of her body tucked behind him…He missed being held… The cold feet she would plunge mercilessly between his knees as though she had the absolute right to his body heat. “Since Belle had been shot, he had been clinging to anger like driftwood… until all that remained was fear. “Particularly useless fear, even by the standards of that specific emotion, because it couldn’t change anything. It could only strike out of nowhere like a snake and fill him full of poison, for he could so easily have lost Belle today… Now, though, it just made him feel a kind of pre-emptive grief. For the possibility of a life he could still not truly picture, and would never have chosen, but which nevertheless gleamed richly with the promise of unimagined, undared contentment.”
[Discussing Memoirs of a Woman of Pleasure by John Cleland, a real novel from 1749] [Belle] “‘Why was it banned, then?’ [Gil, the highwayman] “‘For the same reason most things are: fear and ignorance. In this case, I suspect it has something to do with the fact the book takes as axiomatic that women can be creatures of pleasure just as men can.’ [Belle] “‘And yet,’ she asked, ‘it is not worth reading?’ [Gil] “‘You may if you wish. It’s not really my place to decide for you. Though try not to, you know, fold the pages back or spill beans over it. Very few copies of this book are still in circulation.’ “‘Surely it will be unbanned sometime soon?’ “‘Surely,’ echoed Gil, though he did not sound very convinced on the matter. “‘Well, the idea of a woman liking sex can’t remain so very shocking, can it? I expect we can figure that out in, say, less than a hundred and fifty years.’ “‘Oh please,’ Rufus swiped his had disdainfully through the air, as though dismissing the decades to come. ‘A hundred and fifty years to concede women are people? Give us two hundred and ten, and we will probably still be banning books and hating each other.’ [Gil] “‘I fear his cynicism is not wholly without merit. But… I shall nevertheless join you in hoping for better from posterity.'”
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