Love Notes for Patience

Posted on November 26, 2025 by Catherine Cheng, MD

*deep breaths*

The post office lady. My patient. The airport traffic lady. Holiday highway drivers.
It’s been a day of tense interactions.
In real time, I think to myself, ‘Be kind. Be open, curious, empathetic, generous–walk the talk, omg.’
And then all I can muster is to not snark, snide, and agress back, to wave politely, say thank you, and move on. Couldn’t quite muster the more loving me.
Some days we are not our best selves. It’s okay. We’re doing our best.
We keep practicing patience with ourselves and others. We are enough.

Our world tells us to expect everything now. Our perspective narrows in ways that jeopardize connection and peace. Beware.

2. Something feels off here, and I cannot put my finger on it all the way. Some may say I overthink. I think I just need to understand. Gimme a minute, please.

3. Deep breaths, my love. You’re doing your best. So am I. May we approach each other gently.

4. Thank you so much for your patience with me. Sleep deprivation, menopause, stress, and the state of the world all erode my mind today. Thank you for not throwing me away.

5. Your patience is such a gift to me. Thank you for seeing my efforts to keep up and also do a good (great) job. Please know I do my best for you.

6. You know your truth… You may just not trust it all the way yet. It will become clear over time – let it rise and show itself to the whole of you.

7. Breathe in Hold Breathe out Hold Repeat. It’s okay to feel any emotion. And we can regulate while we wait it out.

8. Consistency over intensity. Small, sustainable change. The results will come. Stick with the program. It will take time. You’ got this.

9. Sometimes it’s most disappointing when we don’t live up to or own standards. We are all works in progress. Every ‘failure’ can help us grow. Keep going.

10. To those who show us patience and forbearance, thank you. May we pay it forward whenever possible. We can all help each other out this way.

11. When you feel harried and anxious, may an infinitely patient soul cross your path, touch your arm, look into your eyes, and share their calm. It will all get done. It’s okay.

12. Their emergency is not necessarily your emergency. There is often time to breathe and approach thoughtfully. Try not to rush, love.

Love Notes for Empathy

Posted on November 25, 2025 by Catherine Cheng, MD

OK friends, I am positively obsessed with the Crowns trilogy by Nicola Tyche, oh my goodness. After binging the books, neglecting all others for two weeks, I started the whole series over almost immediately. I never do this! I found the paperback omnibus on Amazon today and purchased immediately; I’ll mark it up according to my audio bookmarks and hopefully document everything I admire about it here after this 30 day challenge ends. The wickedly twisted plot, heroic character development, and gorgeous prose–I’m easily affected by books, but this is truly beyond. This is the third set of Love Notes inspired by Crowns, and I won’t be surprised if it’s not the last.

What books have affected you deeply? Hmmm, maybe I’ll convene a book club around that question and others one day. That could be different and fun.

When I feel your empathy, I trust you. I open to you. Thank you for this gift of human connection. Please keep offering this to us fellow humans.

2. To the judges therapists nurses law enforcement officers and all who experience the burden of vicarious trauma – may your empathy prevail over burnout.

3. Empathy requires openness and vulnerability – all human connection does. This means risk. May your bravery be rewarded so lavishly that it becomes your nature.

4. Hey friend – I know it can be hard, but let’s try our best to offer our empathy equally to all fellow humans, yes? It’s what we are called to, no?

5. When we come across someone from elsewhere, alone among us locals, may we imagine their feelings and engage with open kindness. It’s the good thing to do.

6. When I lashed out at you in anger and you turned to me in empathy and kindness, you changed me. I am still humbled and convicted from that moment. Thank you.

7. To my friends who bring stories to life – your own or others – thank you for fostering empathy and understandin(g) in us all.

8. Why is empathy so scary sometimes? Seeing ourselves in others, especially in their pain, is painful – thus scary. Let us call forth courage to face all our pain together.

9. “I’ve known this…” sadness grief loneliness anxiety May we all attend to this awareness and honor it.

10. Let us all attune and attend to the empathy of others, let the connection saturate us, so we may offer it widely, every day.

11. Empathy Kindness Compassion Generosity Connection — Regardless where we start, we can land on them all, and we’re all better for it.

12. Are your intentions malicious and hostile? No? then why might you automatically assume another’s are? Let us all practice more generously, please.

Oh I like this set, my friends. Definitely helps to have specific people in mind for each one.
Starting to consider what to do with these 360 love notes at the end of thirty days. Any ideas?

Love Notes for Creativity

Posted on November 23, 2025 by Catherine Cheng, MD

I had promised Sister to bring some of my pretty washi tape cards from Chicago for her to donate. But they are squirreled away under a mountain of clutter and I did not dig them out in time before flying to Colorado this trip. Then at Target today I saw cardstock and a paper cutter, and since I already have a generous stash of washi tape here in the mountains, I decided to spend tonight making cards. I haven’t done this in a couple years, maybe?

It all makes me think about creativity. We associate it with the arts, obviously. But creativity applies in every domain of life. All elegant problem solving requires creativity, no matter how technical or left-brained. And in order to access our creativity, we must be open. Openness can feel vulnerable. So we need courage.

Isn’t it wonderful how all of these things intersect to make us better? Let’s see how creative I can get with a dozen jar smiles, eh? 😀

What fun new idea knocks around in your head? Who can you share it with and play around to develop it? How will you bring it forth?

2. Creative, resourceful, and whole. This is the fundamental assumption coaches make of clients. You have what you need to make your life.

3. I wish you a benign challenge that makes you invent solutions you may never have come to otherwise. May it give you confidence and agency!

4. Be brave with your ideas and make things with openness and joy! 😀 Ignore dismissal and celebrate praise! You’ got this!

5. UNconventional, hallelujah! Humanity evolves at an accelerating pace! Your creativity will serve you better and BETTER.

6. May you free your imagination and spark your creativity this day when you come upon anything requiring new and innovative thinking! You’ got this!

7. I bet you are much more creative than you give yourself credit for! Where will you try something new next? No fear!

8. Rest. Fuel. Watch. Listen. Breathe. You will see the novel solutions to the pressing challenges when you are settled, centered, and wholly YOU.

9. What if? Why not? What about…? Look around. See anew the things considered mundane. This is how we create!! Woohooo!

10. What are the foundations of creativity? I think they are calm, openness, vulnerability, courage, and FUN. And love. Because love is the foundation of everything.

11. What lies in our future that we have not nearly imagined? How will we create and invent it? May you have a hand in making your future bright!

12. Just try it! You never know how you will like it or be awesome at it if you don’t give it a shot! Have fun!

I realize that I enjoy writing these love notes a lot more when I have specific people in mind. So for the remaining week of this month, I will do this more consistently. Let’s see if they get better!