Love Notes for Balance

Tonight’s post inspired by Ginny Clarke @ginny_clarke on Instagram:
True power moves from stillness. Real productivity flows from presence.
When you’re always in motion, you cannot hear your intuition. When you’re constantly busy, you cannot receive inspiration.
Your soul didn’t come here to be a productivity machine.
Find the stillness within the storm.”

Balance is a dynamic state, I have said for a long time. I have learned four iterative lessons from five months of slackboard balance practice:
1. Activate the core
2. Relax
3. Feel it more than think it
4. Consistency, even if infrequent, yields results over time.
And of course, good music makes everything easier and more fun.

Head over to my Instagram page @chenger91 and check out the slackboard story highlight reels. I record every session, though I don’t necessarily post. I learn a lot from watching myself and seeing progress from a different perspective. Standing on one foot on a two inch strap, shifting weight and moving in the sagittal plane while maintaining center of gravity in the midline coronally–FUN to train! And I’m getting better, which is gratifying.

Wishing all the dynamic balance that allows us to stay strong and soft, rooted and flexible, stable and mobile, all in a great cosmic integration, within ourselves and among one another.

The next twelve love notes below; which ones resonate with you?

  1. Light and dark, masculine and feminine, hard and soft, left and right. We each and all possess both. It is up to us to find the beneficial blend.

2. Persist until you yield. Go until you rest. Repeat. Find the rhythm that works. And in the process, may you find meaning and connection always.

3. Today may you feel a better integration of the disparate parts of yourself – the parts that are apparently in conflict. They are all part of your whole. They each have a place.

4. Sometimes we swing too far to one side or the other. It’s normal. No big deal. We can learn to manage the momentum and velocity better each time.

5. Extremes are rarely sustainable. Nature tends toward mutually beneficial balance in the long term. But storms still happen, and can alter the landscpe. Hang on. We can ride it.

6. Most things take practice for proficiency. We are born with a sense of symmetry but not necessarily balance. The latter can be trained. But we must engage.

7. May that which feels imbalanced for you find its way to a stable center, at least for a little while. May it let you rest and gain a new perspective, such that deviations from center diminish.

8. When did we learn to take turns? Such a brilliant concept. Fairness. Recipirocity. Mutual respect and accountability. Offer. Receive. And back again.

9. Do you prefer to stand on your right or left foot? How would training the opposite benefit you in ways you may not expect? Now I’m not just talking about slackboards.

10. Even the scorched forrest grows back more lush than before. It just takes time. So we can practice patience. And advocate consistently. From all sides. Just maybe leave the matches at home.

11. May the forces that push and pull you out of balance, both intrinsic and extrinsic, find you increasingly stable and resilient to their disruptive influences. May your roots ground you.

12. *sigh* So many moving parts in thls life! :O Is it not amazing that we can move through it all with any sense of balance and stability? So pat yourself on the back–you’re doing great!

Oooo, fascinating. I had no idea so much political inuendo would emerge in this set! Is it obvious? Not sure I’ve ever written anything like that before… Maybe I will try my hand at allegory one day. 😉

Love Notes for Work

Listening to the end of Coming Up Short, Robert Reich’s memoir. Daughter and I saved it to listen on the road trip to college at the end of August. We finished all but the last two hours, which I could not bring myself to continue alone until now, nine weeks later. Highly recommend! His stories are rich and heartfelt, and I respect his principles and values. He is forthright and honest in his unflinching conviction and passion for lifting the middle/working class and making government work for all, not just the rich, an ideal to which he has dedicated his professional life. Reich describes his emotions at retirement, including gratitude and ambivalence. I wonder how I will feel when I stop seeing patients for a living, though I imagine I will always think of myself as a doctor.

So I hope I can come up with twelve excellent love notes for work!

Two days into thirty, I notice how redundant these love notes feel to write and reread all at once. As readers can you see these post titles as a list? Does it occur to you to read the first couple each day this month and save the rest for later? Would it work to dip in and out of this blog throughout this month and beyond, depending on what love note you need/want on a given day? Would you come here to pluck a love note for a friend or loved one? At the same time it feels a little awkward to write them this way, I wonder if these thirty days could be a closer approximation of my love notes pocketbook than I initially imagined? Hmmm, we shall see! 😀

Let us continue:

  1. OK so, my friend, what do you love about your work? How does it fulfill youo and bring you joy? I hope you can count multiple ways!

2. Autonomy. Mastery. Purpose. May you feel these enough or even in spades daily. Now go forth and badass this day.

3. You work. Whether or not you make money is a different story. You spend time and energy doing, and that matters. You. Matter. onward.

4. May the meaning and personal fulfillment in your work far outweigh its stress over the long term! And if not, may you cope healthily.

5. Even if your work is solitary, may you always know without a doubt the positive impact it has on those it touches. And may you(r) support network live at your fingertips.

6. Our culture too often equates work or career with identity. If that works for you, yay! If not, good on you! You contain multitudes. Your job is only one aspect of you.

7. What inspires motivates gratifies you at work today? This week? Ever? May it recur on your consciousness regularly!

8. Whatever B.S. you must cope with at your job (because let’s be honest we all do), may it take a backseat to your mission and purpose. You’ got work to do.

9. However you describe your job — maker, helper, builder or anything else, may you feel meaning and intrinsic joy in it every day!

10. Hey, maybe take a break from work today and *dance*!? 😀 Who knows how life could be better if we all did this daily? Go on, twirl a little.

11. May your next work day bring you the meaning you most need, and interactions with our fellow humans that lift you in the best ways!

12. May you always see, feel, and internalize the value of your work to humanity. You do good, and that matters. Onward! You matter.

Thanks for coming with me on this love note trip with me! Please tell me how it’s going? 🙂

Love Notes for Rest

No obligations this weekend! I didn’t die from the conditioning workout at Ethos this morning, and even let Mason push me harder at the end of the rope waves round than I would have ever pushed myself. Feelin’ it all in the right bicep, my friends. Getting stronger all the time, woohoooooo!

And now if I want to stay in my house, see and speak to no one, I can! No calls, no errands, no children to ferry, not even Hubs to attend to–he’s on a work trip.

*sigh*

Here are my wishes for rest, friends. May we all get what we need.

  1. Make time and space to let your hair down (proverbially), ya?
    Loosen the muscles, take some deep breaths… Downgear… Aaaahh.

2. Deep breaths, dear darling. You do so much every day — and there is always more. It’s okay to move slowly and rest well.

3. It’s about self-love, I think… This idea that we are only worthy if we run around like headless chickens–FUCK THAT! Rest, my friend. It’s OK.

4. How have you taken care of yourself today? Did you sit down to eat? You deserve the best care you can give. It’s okay to slow down.

5. What does rest, slowing down, taking a breath, do for you? Do you get to do it often enough? I hope so. I hope you get positively oodles of it!!

6. Calm. Peace. Sloooooww… *sigh* Aaahhh — Wishing you so much– just feeeel the de-escalation!

7. Our culture tells us we are not enough. We don’t do enough. We don’t have enough. ENOUGH ALREADY! Life is not about constant hustle. Rest. It’s OK.

8. Picturing a deep, squishy sofa, plush, thick blankets, a rich, warm beverage, and a lovely movie or delicious book. How do you rest? Hope you get to soon!

9. What do you need to rest from today? Wishing you that space and distance, that which gives perspective and grounds you in you.

10. When did you last really rest? Hmm? How did it feel? Can you relive it right now? Can we carry that restful vibe wherever we go?

11. *sigh* Take a deep breath, my friend. You can get through anything this way. Breathe. Rest when you need. It will all get done.

12. Tasks Activity Productivity Accomplishment — All valuable in a full life. Just don’t forget to rest.

Huh. I see a recurring theme here. That says something, no?