“When we go to a foreign country, we know acutely when we don’t share a common language. Not so in US political discussions.”
I paraphrase Sharon, my Braver Angels pal. I had just described what I mean when I say “liberal,” and why I prefer to identify myself as “progressive.” And though we both consider ourselves to be “Blue,” it turns out that our definitions of these words diverge widely. I think neither of us uses the words interchangeably (do you?), and I wonder if it has ever caused us to misunderstand each other. What comes to mind and body for you when you hear these labels? What about “conservative,” “right wing,” or “Red?”
When I read/hear “liberal,” I cringe a little and feel defensive. Maybe that’s because it’s used so often as a pejorative term anymore by “the right,” like when they jeer people of my ilk (which is what, exactly, though?) as “libtards,” (a dual pejorative against both “liberals” and people with developmental disabilities). I resist labels, especially when people apply them to me without knowing anything about me. I suspect we all dislike this, no? To me, “liberal” means loose, without boundaries or limits, mindless, uncontrolled—as in suntan oil—“apply liberally.” Maybe I have internalized the contempt of the other side?
I prefer to identify as progressive because it feels more intentional. When we progress, it is toward something. We have a goal. We serve a purpose, and we walk with conviction to values. Those values, for me, include equity, compassion, integrity, fairness, and the infinite, dynamic balance between what serves the individual and what serves the collective. And I absolutely value meeting my political opposition on common ground, looking for shared values and goals to manifest in collaboration, rather than in competition. This is the opposite of the prevailing idea of the word, I think?
I think Sharon’s definitions of the two words are more commonly shared. She sees “liberal” as the general term that defines those who identify as “Blue,” who share and advocate for values attributed to “the left,” such as environmental protection, climate change action, antiracism, social justice, financial regulation, social safety nets, public healthcare, gun control, police reform, etc. In her mind, “progressive” defines folks on “far left” of the spectrum, whose rhetoric and tactics are more aggressive, and who express much less willingness to negotiate or compromise on their goals and policies.
Tonight I invite you to participate in an experiment.
Sit down, relax; take some deep breaths. Free your mind and unwind your body. Feel safe to be totally honest and vulnerable with yourself. Choose a few words from the list below and free associate for a minute or two. Notice the images, words, emotions, and physical sensations that emerge when you read, say, and hear each word. Don’t judge your reactions; they are neither right nor wrong, good nor bad. They are simply your personal associations. Write down what emerges for each word. Take your time.
When you come across an opportunity (or seek it next—or maybe it will find you), invite someone you trust to do the same for the words you chose. Assure them that you will not judge or criticize their associations (and then don’t). Maybe offer them to choose some words for you both to associate.
Then compare notes—share. Consider setting some ground rules, such as mutual non-judgment and respect, before starting.
What does the idea of this personal exercise and exchange bring up for you, in mind, body, and spirit? What do you make of your reaction? How might this exercise help you in political conversations, perhaps the way a translator might help you in a foreign country? How might it also help you in other relationships and domains of life?
Please feel free to share your associations and exchanges in the comments.
Onward in curiosity, humility, generosity, and connection, my friends.
Word list:
Right
Left
Conservative
Liberal
Progressive
Democrat
Republican
Red
Blue
Democracy
Democratic
Republic
Right wing
Left wing
Negotiate
Compromise
Regulation
Pro-Life
Pro-Choice
Climate Change
Pandemic
Public Health
Healthcare
Social Justice
Racism
Antiracism
Police reform
Gun control
Immigrant
Dreamer
Elite
Conspiracy
Insurrection
Coup
Riot
Patriot
Loyalty
Hypocrisy
Integrity
Bias
Prejudice
Discrimination
Tribe
Party
What else?
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