Hello again, friends! Is this the longest I’ve been away since I started this blog? Can’t remember, doesn’t matter! Good to be back! Hope you all are well. J
I aim to get back in the swing of writing before November’s National Blog Post Month, or NaBloPoMo, as it’s known… I have my list of potential topics all laid out, can’t wait can’t wait! So here is the first of four weekly posts I hereby commit to attempting in October.
Soooo… Is anyone else as mentally and emotionally exhausted as I am these past few weeks? It would take too long to write it all out, and I am really trying hard to get to bed on time these days, so suffice it to say here that it’s been ugly and damanging to many, and we had all better figure out how to move forward lest we eat each other alive.
Throughout the debates on sexual assault, teenage promiscuity, alcohol use, judicial temperament, character, and integrity, I have truly appreciated voices that speak to our higher capacities for connection and understanding. More specifically, I have sought people on one side of an issue seeking to bridge the gap between theirs and the other. Now that the deed is done, I look back on the most thoughtful articles, the ones that give me hope for the future of civil discourse.
First, Benjamin Wittes wrote two pieces for The Atlantic. Initially he laid out how Brett Kavanaugh could present himself such that we Americans could sleep at night with him on the high court. Despite the impossibility of proving or disproving the allegations against him, Wittes argued, it was his responsibility to convince us that he is truly worthy of the post. After his rageful and disrespectful performance at the second hearing, Wittes wrote again, expounding on why the judge, despite his legal qualifications, should not be elevated due to his apparent lack of candor and the caveat that would always follow his opinions. In both pieces, Wittes makes clear that he has no problem with conservatism and Kavanaugh’s jurisprudence. But as a progressive myself, I felt reassured by Wittes’s words that someone on ‘the other side’ understood my concerns and validated them.
I read a lot of social media posts pointing to the devastating sequelae for men when falsely accused of rape and sexual assault. I felt gratified to find at least one article reviewing evidence and statistics for this, basically showing that the number is vanishingly low, compared to the incidence of actual sexual assault and violence. When I post such articles, though, my friends who support Kavanaugh’s nomination are unlikely to read, and more likely to feel I simply ignore their concerns. So when I found this article, written by Emily Yoffe, a victim of sexual assault herself, advocating due process for the accused, I wanted to share. I thought that by acknowledging and validating ‘the other side,’ I might open a window for my point of view to enter my “opponents’” minds and prompt consideration.
I admire Senator Murkowski from Alaska, for voting and speaking her mind, pointing us all to the larger picture of the integrity and reputation of our democratic institutions, while also pointing to and maintaining the humanity of all involved. And then this article by Howard Zinn from 2005 came across my feed this weekend, reminding us citizens of our role in the workings of government and societal progress.
Finally, I was able to unwind with the kids today by watching some Avengers movies. We like Black Panther in particular, with its epic vistas, futuristic technology, and rich cultural backdrop. At the end, when King T’Challa addresses the United Nations, his words struck me as exactly what we need across our country and indeed around the world today. I may print and post them by my bed, to remind myself of how I want to think, speak, and act:
“We will work to be an example of how we, as brothers and sisters on this earth, should treat each other. Now, more than ever, the illusions of division threaten our very existence. We all know the truth: more connects us than separates us. But in times of crisis the wise build bridges, while the foolish build barriers. We must find a way to look after one another, as if we were one single tribe.”
Now is the time, more than any in my life so far, when we must call loudly and desperately on the ‘better angels of our nature.’ How can we manifest them the most radiantly?
Healing Through Connection 