NaBloPoMo 2016, Letters to Patients, Day 29
To Patients Who Think What You Do Doesn’t Matter:
Yesterday I described You, the Elite Athlete. All great athletes know they do not succeed alone. They also appreciate the unique contribution they make to their teams. What teams do you serve? How do you lead? It doesn’t matter whether you have a title or designation. One of my favorite ideas is that no matter our instrument in the orchestra, according to Ben Zander, we can lead from any chair.
For now, think of yourself as Team Captain, or Tribal Leader. You have invested in yourself by fueling and training, resting and recovering, managing your stress, and cultivating excellent relationships. Now you can take the returns and reinvest in those around you:
Appraise: Prioritize self-care
- Like on an airplane: “Put your own mask on first.” Tribal leaders know that to effectively care for others long term, they first need to be healthy themselves.
- Practice awareness and management of your emotions, and prevent emotional hijacking, so as to be emotionally available to our teammates and tribe members.
Empathize: Speak the team’s language(s)
- Think of your favorite teachers and coaches—they were able to relate to learners at all stages of development and team morale—and lovingly lift us all up.
- “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” –T. Roosevelt
Inspire: Lead by example
- Effective leaders reject victim mentality, take responsibility for our actions, and model accountability for fellow tribe members.
- When we captains can take our own mistakes in stride, as learning opportunities rather than shameful horrors, we make it safe for our teammates to do the same.
- Everybody is then free to take more risks, voice more ideas, offer more of their authentic selves as a contribution to the whole,
- Because they see us, their leaders, the ones who set the tone for the group, doing it, too.
- Key here also is leading out loud—excellent captains articulate and coach the methods of self-awareness and self-management that help us all succeed.
- By inspiring individuals to pursue personal excellence, leaders create a supportive milieu for collaboration and collective achievement.
Motivate: Empower team members
- Effective captains (coaches, leaders) recognize team members’ strengths and potential, as well as areas for improvement.
- Rather than shaming teammates for mistakes or deficiencies, good tribal leaders provide feedback and encouragement, and more opportunities for practice and development.
- They take into account each team member’s personal goals, and help to align them with those of the collective—excellent captains connect individuals to the whole.
If your actions cause others to
Dream more, learn more,
Do more and become more,
You are a leader.
–John Quincy Adams
What would happen if you treated yourself like a true leader?