To My Tribe

You see me

You hear me

You understand, accept, and love me

For who I am

And who I strive to be

You hold me accountable to my own core values

You give me the benefit of the doubt

You tolerate my epistemic wanderings, cogitations, and theories

You sit with me, listening, hearing, processing, supporting, encouraging

You hold me up, help me live into each next better version of myself

You are learners, thinkers, connectors, dreamers, writers

You are curious lovers of ideas, courageous embracers of paradox

You do your own inner work

You make unique and valuable contributions to our world

Just by being you

I respect and admire you all so much

I have only incomplete and inadequate words to express the enormity of my gratitude

I only feel I can do great things because I have you

I know you’ got me

I’ got you too

We are all better, together.

Thank you to the beyond and back.

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Here’s a great song that expresses it all.

Image from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/You_Raise_Me_Up

We Could Have Been Friends

I like this house

Clean, bright, with an open living space

Well appointed but not gawdy or austentacious

And the books

A lifetime of them

Giant shelves full, built into the walls

Hardcover, used, not abused

Well cared for, respected

Organized, tucked in

Fiction, classic and contemporary

Cookbooks over generations

History Literature Science Politics Geography

Romance – a sliver in the study, a collection in the bedroom

Range

Tasteful art

I notice your silver dessert spoons

A full dozen set

Tarnished, waiting, calling for me to polish and use, to admire every day

So I buy them, a bargain, can’t wait to get home with them

I leave the books; have plenty of my own already

I wonder if we would have been friends

If I had been your neighbor

Or known you otherwise before you left this house, this mortal world?

It’s the story I almost tell

I hope you are at peace somewhere

I’ll take good care of your spoons

Of Ice Cream Bread and Pope Fights

B Dylan Holis — https://www.youtube.com/c/BDylanHollis

This week I will make ice cream bread.

I will mix 2 cups of soft, full fat ice cream with 1.5 cups of all purpose flour and 1.5 teaspoons of baking powder. I will spread it in a greased loaf pan and bake it at 350 degrees for about 45 minutes. Sourdough, it is not. And I cannot wait! I have Daughter to thank for this adventure, among others.

She found B Dylan Holis online last year, and we are both big fans. He has a music degree and lives, I think, in Wyoming. He posts brief, hilarious, informative, and educational baking videos on TikTok, and cross posts on YouTube. Recipes come from vintage periodical cookbooks and community compilations, many from the early 20th Century. Sometimes he records extended versions of his most popular videos, with deeper explanations of recipe origins and historical food culture. I love BDH because he is at once respectful and irreverent, knowledgeable and curious. And he’s fun. All of his videos are experiments. Some recipes turn out as gross as we anticipate, and some surprise us. Check him out, I bet you’ll like his work.

Daughter also loves Overly Sarcastic Productions, or OSP. ‘Red’ and ‘Blue’ are friends and the primary narrators and animators. “We make videos about myths, literature, and history — because learning can, in fact, actually be enjoyable, despite what prior experiences might have shown you.” Daughter plays the videos in the car, the kitchen, the living room. Once again, respectful irreverence rules, as well as sharp wit and lightning fast history and literature lessons. Their Pope Fights series especially fascinated Daughter, and provided rich context when we watched The Borgias on Netflix this past summer.

We also admire Hank Green, who posts videos on all things biology, science, and history. He aims his YouTube content at both teachers and students, but it’s his TikToks that we love–little diatribes about random things, and almost always funny and informative. It’s just wonderful that creative, smart, and effectively communicative people now, in the 21st Century, have easy access to expansive platforms to educate and entertain. We just have to be discerning about our consumption.

Finally, check out Cinema Therapy! Alan and Jonathan, a filmmaker and licensed therapist, respectively, are also old college friends who love watching and talking about movies. Their videos parse out stereotypes, tropes, relationship dynamics, communication skills, and overall filmmaking wonderness, all with laughter and pragmatism for application in real life. They elevate our awareness of things we take for granted in entertainment, making us more thoughtful and conscious consumers of our movies.

It’s harder every year to put down our devices. Media abounds, and it’s too easy to let FoMO drive our lives, getting stuck scrolling through meaningless, valueless drivel. I think Daughter has found some worthwhile programs, though. We do our best to moderate. She has expanded my world, and I am grateful.